Monday, August 30, 2004
I haven't decided on the title of the book yet... I have some "candidates" but nothing's decided upon yet...So here are some of the stuff from my book... hope it interests u to read more... the order they are written is not the actual order that they appear in the book, by the way...
“Love is a decision, not merely a feeling. Emotions come and go, so you should never make them the foundations of your love.” (Father Chris of Prince of Peace Parish, May 9th, 2004 homily)
I am not saying that I am an expert in this matter or in anything at all; we all know so little about life. I just want to share my knowledge with as many people as possible. I want to save you (or die trying) from a lifetime of regrets and unhappiness because of not knowing what you should have known and learned from your parents and others around you. If my book saves just ONE person from making the wrong decision, then all my efforts have not been a waste. Like you, I am also learning to live this life as best I can; doing what God wants me to do on earth. I learn from my own and other people’s mistakes and experiences. Every small event in your life is a lesson to be learned. Everything that happens creates an opportunity for learning. Life is, after all, a lifetime of learning; learning to love, learning to forgive, and learning to be a better person.
Look around you. How many couples are truly happy? How many couples cherish and love each other? Not many at all. Sure they can smile when they’re out in public, but are they like that at home? Please stop being so naïve and ignorant. You think you know what it takes to be happily married? Think again. That’s why more than half of all marriages end in divorces; because people over-rate themselves. They think they know it all. “Love is all you need.” Yeah right! We all know that love is not enough; that’s why people separate, have affairs, and so forth, because they feel “I’m in love” in the beginning. What is love anyway? It’s too easy these days to say “I love you”, that the words have very little meaning. True love must be shown in action. They may be in love at the time, but if they don’t have what it takes to confront reality and life’s endless problems, then it will most likely end in tragedy. You’ve got to have the whole package.
Many of us mistake feelings of loneliness, infatuation, attraction, etc., as love. “At that moment is felt like love,” or “He said he loved me and I thought I loved him too.” Come on; stop being so gullible and start making the right choices in life. It is for your own good in the end. Don’t you want to be happy?
Happiness is not out there; it is inside of you, only you can make yourself happy. Do not depend entirely on someone else for your happiness. Other people can complete your happiness, but you have to be happy with yourself and with what you have in order to love others truly. Love yourself first, but not in a selfish way (if you know what it really means to love yourself). If you cannot make yourself happy, please don’t trick yourself into believing that you can make other people happy.
In a lot of the relationships I have observed, people stay together out of convenience or for the kids’ sake. “I’ll just save the heartache and shame and guilt and stay with him/her, he/she is not so bad after all”, and then years later, “Oh! I should have dumped him/her years ago when I hadn’t given all that I had.” You have sacrificed too many things and now you have not the courage to end the relationship. Even though the love is gone, you are too scared of living without him/her because you are so used to the idea of him/her. If it turns out that the man/woman you are with is not your true love but you stick around anyway, then you have just closed your door to the true love and happiness that may be waiting for you.
Life is too short to be spending time with a person who does not truly care about our feelings and needs. Choose the kind of partner who will still be there for us when we are old and wrinkled, or when we are ill or forty pounds heavier than we used to be.
Being physically beautiful is not and will never be enough to keep a man/woman interested. There has to be something more in the whole package. Have you ever wondered why the not so good-looking, chubby ones are happily married to someone who adores and cherishes them? There are, of course, beautiful ones who are also happily married with gorgeous children. They simply do not depend on beauty alone. After all, true beauty comes from the inside, shining out of the person.
For the single people out there, be happy. Accept the fact that you are single and be comfortable with it, until the right person comes along. One reason: you have fewer problems than those in a relationship. Learn to enjoy yourself, to “love” yourself. This does not mean that you must become self-centered, but it is quite the other way around. True happiness does not come from a self-centered life, but rather from getting out of yourself and serving others; thinking less about yourself and focusing more on other people who have less. This should always be first in your mind. After learning to love yourself, then you will be able to love others truly. If people say “I hate myself, I love A and I want to be like A”, that means nothing. How can you love someone else when you hate yourself? Impossible, it’s pure jealousy. When I talk about having less, I mean it not only financially, but also in other aspects of life. There are so many “poor” people, especially those with more money than they need. If money is everything, then all movie stars and millionaires are content and happy, no? They are living in illusion and lies; they have to constantly lie about themselves, about who they really are and the whole crap.
When it comes to something as powerful and serious as sex, we have to make sure that our practical side is involved in the decision-making process. Let your brain do the thinking, not your emotions. Romance: a strong, usually short-lived attachment or enthusiasm; it is imaginative but impractical and not based on fact. How can we effectively know the other person as deeply as we want when we are obsessed with making out? Sex should not be involved in the decision to marry someone, because you do not have sex 24/7. You need a lifetime partner who can be your friend, not just your lover. Can he/she be you friend when both of you are not having sex? There is an old saying that goes something like this: “Marry the person you love talking to, because when you are both old, your conversational skills will keep you going”.
More and more women nowadays are more sexually aggressive than the men, and they are being used by men all the time. In the end, they all suffer. And then they wonder why things don’t work out in their lives. Well, no wonder, because you’re doing it all wrong! You ask for it and you blame others for your mistakes, it’s like digging your own grave.
Finding the perfect man is impossible. Finding the right man is impossible too because he may be right for other women, but not for you. What is the definition of “the right man” anyway? Who decides if he is the one or not? Like they say, love is not enough. He might say or think that he loves you so much, but it doesn’t stop him from hurting you. “Oh, he will never hurt me.” How many times have we heard that reply from a woman, and yet years later find out that the woman is abused by her man. You may think that he is not capable of hurting you because you don’t want that to happen; you are too scared to even think that his hurting you is a possibility. Nothing is impossible, even the gentlest and kindest person can hurt others in so many ways.
It doesn’t hurt to be cautious. “Oh, you’re so picky and skeptical, you’ll never be happy”, your so called friends might say. The truth is, you’re being smart. You’re using your gift of intelligence that so many of us humans take for granted. Most people let their emotions control and guide their actions and decisions. Regrets usually follow.
You have to do a lot of judging; judging people’s characters, judging if this is the right moment to do certain things, to take action, and so forth. If people say that they don’t judge other people or things, then they don’t know what they’re talking about.
Humans make countless judgments each day and we don’t realize that we do this all the time. Judging is wrong when you judge a person by their face, money, or body, and then decide not to befriend that person because he or she is not cute enough, or not rich enough, or not slim enough to be seen with you. Don’t be shallow, be wise. It's what's inside that matters.
Alright... I think that's enough... I don't wanna give away too much... :)
si Monyet @ 8/30/2004 09:13:00 PM
"Be kind...why not?" by Mathilda
Kindness...what is it? It sure feels good and it doesn't hurt a bit...
A "hi, how are you?", a simple "Please" and "thank you" can make you feel worthy
A smile from a stranger can make your day
A "You can go first" can make anyone feel special
A "Here, you dropped your wallet" can make anyone feel lucky
A "Let me help you carry your stuff" lets you know that there is still goodness in the world.
A "Call me if you need help" makes you realize that you have friends who truly care
Kindness...pass it on
When you plant seeds of kindness, they will grow
And when one day you need a helping hand
Many hands will be glad to help
And you will say "I'm the happiest person on earth"
So be kind... you have nothing to lose
si Monyet @ 8/30/2004 09:03:00 PM
Every end is a new beginning
The past is dead
The future is imaginary
What we have is the here and now
(Mathilda)
Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes.
Don’t resist them-that only creates sorrow.
Let reality be reality.
Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.
(Lao-Tse)
This song is sooo NOT me... huahaha... if I ever feel this way, bring me back to reality please... but it's a nice song nonetheless... so enjoy
I know I can be a little stubborn sometimes
A little righteous and too proud
I just want to find a way to compromise
Cos I believe that we can work things out
I thought I had all the answers never giving in
But baby since you've gone
I admit that I was wrong
All I know is I'm lost without you... I'm not gonna lie
How am I going to be strong without you
I need you by my side
If we ever say we'll never be together and we ended with goodbye
don't know what I'd do …
I'm lost without you
I keep trying to find my way but all I know is I'm lost without you
I keep trying to face the day
I'm lost without you
How am I ever gonna get rid of these blues
Baby I'm so lonely all the time
Everywhere I go I get so confused
You're the only thing that's on my mind ("Lost Without You" by Delta Goodrem)
You've been searching the world to find true love
Looking in all the wrong places
When all of the time you've been blind to love
As plain as the nose on your facesIt's here, it's now.
Open your eyes and see it.
Right here, right now.
Open your eyes to love
You've been down on yourself thinking some things are wrong
Wondering why love has never found you
Don't you know it's been right here all along
If only you'd look around you
Love has been right by your side oh so close that you could'nt see.
If love could speak it would shout to the sky,
"I've always been here,I always will be."
("Open Your Eyes to Love" by LMNT)
So life's full of crap.
Alright... I can take that.
I have no clue what the future will be like,
So I'm just gonna live my life as best I know how.
Will you all help me get through this crap? I'm sure of that
So life's full of bull.
Ok, but it is also full of... life itself...
Are you confused? Me too
But I know that there is no point in crying endlessly, it won't make it alright again
What do I know about life's mysteries? Not much, really...very little in fact.
So what do I do now?
I gotta get up and run...life is short
Y'all out there, go live your life
And don't waste it on worthless things
That don't bring nothing but misery
Be kind, be compassionate, be loving
Loving hurts, but that's the only way to live
So keep loving and hope to be loved in return
Now go live life to the full!
("Cut it Out!"by Mathilda-edited version of the original poem)
si Monyet @ 8/30/2004 08:37:00 PM
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